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PUULLEASE!

As we know, the word please is usually meant to be a polite statement that accompanies a request of another. With a drawn out pronunciation and sarcastic intonation, this word can turn quickly into an expression that reflects disgust, disapproval, anger, and disagreement. ‘Puullease’ may be used to dismiss the other person, to criticize, or to put them down. In any case, saying this word in the way just described typically leaves little room for conciliatory dialogue.

Consider a time when you have used an imploring statement such as ‘puullease’ in a conflict or when someone else has, when answering this week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions). Feel free to substitute another word you may have used with the same sort of intonation:

  • What was the context for using ‘puullease’?
  • What did you mean by saying ‘puullease’ (or other word you used with the same intonation)?
  • What were you experiencing at the time?
  • What happened to the conversation?
  • How did the other person react?
  • When someone has used an expression like ‘puullease’ in response to something you said, what has been the impact on you?
  • What were you hoping to happen in the above scenario that didn’t?
  • What could you have said to replace ‘puullease’ to be able to achieve that?
  • If you were to use the word ‘please’ to start off a sentence that states what you wanted or needed from the other person what would that sentence be?
  • How would it sound?

What other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may you add here?

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2 Responses to PUULLEASE!

  1. I used this at a point of exasperation when all I was saying was being ignored. Once I said pullease with an exasperated and firm tone, an awareness arose in the person I was talking to and she began to hear me for the first time during the conversation.

  2. Cinnie Noble says:

    You make a good point Adjoa. That is, saying a statement such as this may have the impact of letting the other person know we have had enough. That message may indeed lead him or her to cease the behaviours etc. that motivated the exclamation – ‘puullease!’ – with the realization that the conversation may end altogether. Thank you for this perspective.

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