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Author Archives: Cinnie Noble

Understanding Why We Blame

Let’s face it, we sometimes spend needless time in blame mode about our interpersonal disputes. Just think of all the energy we put out! I’m not always sure what compels blame. Are we trying to take attention away from our … Continue reading

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The Conflict Iceberg

The metaphor of an iceberg has commonly been used as a metaphor about conflict. This is on the basis that there are things above the surface that show themselves and then, there is all that is going on underneath. Compared … Continue reading

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Facing the Conflict

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” ~ James Baldwin The notion that we have the ability to change someone (such as their personality, their needs, their values, their core … Continue reading

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THE NEED TO PROVE RIGHTNESS

This quote refers to a common phenomenon for many of us when we are in conflict and the need to be right trumps the possibility of accepting another perspective. Considering alternative ideas as legitimate, backing down, being okay with acknowledging … Continue reading

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APOLOGY RIGHT – NOT APOLOGY LITE

So much is written and discussed in the field of conflict management about the importance of apologies to help people resolve their interpersonal disputes and move on. On the other hand, many commentators in the legal world express the perspective … Continue reading

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