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Category Archives: Blame

Self-Blame in Conflict

It happens for many of us that we take on the whole responsibility of our interpersonal conflicts – to our detriment. Owning our part is healthy and a reflection of conflict mastery. However, there is a good chance we both … Continue reading

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Why Bother Criticizing?

When we are in conflict it is common to criticize the other person – blaming her or him for things said or done (or not said or done). In our blaming we might name-call, put them down, ignore them, be … Continue reading

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Self-Blame

Self-blame, like guilt, can be a useless sentiment unless we learn from it. After all, it ends up being a waste of time to be hard on ourselves and fret over doing and saying things we cannot do over. What … Continue reading

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The Blame Game

Blaming the other person when we are in conflict is a game of folly. There is nothing to be gained except perhaps the temporary satisfaction of thinking we are not responsible for being part of the conflict. What part are … Continue reading

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Pointing Fingers

When we talk about pointing fingers at others (when in conflict) it is typically in the context of blaming them for something. It could be that their words or deeds offended us or got us into trouble. It may be … Continue reading

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